A few nights ago I came across an article that Huffington Post had shared from Reader's Digest. It is entitled 13 Things your Hair Stylist Won't Tell You. Of course I was intrigued and then honestly I was pissed! Mad enough I have been thinking about it since I saw it and care enough to now write about it. Now some of these are true but after #3 I was offended by what it made me as a stylist look like so everything else I read was biased and I read in a snotty tone.
Here is the original list, and link to the article. I will be adding my feedback within it.
There were a few different examples but I picked the first link but feel free to look at the other and ask if that is how I really feel, you know I will tell you the truth!
1. I work hard to make you happy, and I want you to like it. After you leave my salon, I worry about what you think. (I work on people, not on cars on an assembly line.) And if you feel like calling to tell me how happy you are with my work, you will make me smile.
They are right, I do worry about what you think because I do want you to be happy. When a client leaves and is happy with their hair they swing it, they play with it and they smile. Don't feel like you texting or contacting me to tell me you are happy is required or expected. The biggest compliment for me is when I see you back in my chair the next time.
Now you must realize that some places you will go actually do work assembly line style because the company they work for requires it so they can make money. To be able to live they have to do a certain amount an hour and reach a certain total within the month otherwise they make minimum wage. I know this because I used to work for a company like that and now I especially enjoy being my own business because I can take my time and tailor your look and try to make you feel like you aren't being cattle herded.
2. You represent me. So it’s in my best interest for you to look good.
It is in my best interest to not only make you look good but to make you feel good about yourself period. It's not about me.
3. I’m a beautician, not a magician. I can give you Gisele Bundchen’s haircut, bit I can’t give you her face.
Yes, I've heard it but it makes me cringe still every time I hear it. Yes, people ask for hair styles and colors that will not make them look like the picture but what I think they are hoping for is the glow and confidence those people have in those pictures as well. Many times they ask for services that won't even work with their hair or take a time commitment they might not want to make. It is my job to talk with them and let them know what outcome and the amount of work they can expect. It is my goal to help them have a cut that makes them feel beautiful like they view the picture but at the same time keep it real for their commitment and matching their hair.
4. Come at least five minutes early. If you’re running late, please call ahead. Show me some basic respect. This is a business, not fun and games.
We are all human, we all get stuck in traffic, some of us have kids that poop or throw up right as we are leaving the house and other things that make delays. If you are constantly late to each appointment then it can be a frustration and might mean I have to rush your service to be able to be there for my next client which I don't like to do. Yes it is a business but I also enjoy having fun with my clients as well. Once again another one I just read in a pissy tone.
5. Don’t ask me to squeeze you in. If I’m already booked, I’d be taking time and effort away from other clients. You wouldn’t like being treated that way.
As I always tell my kids, you can always ask for what you want you might just not hear the answer you want. Sometimes I finish early or cancellations happen, it doesn't hurt to ask. The best thing about being my own boss is I make my hours and sometimes I don't mind staying a half an hour later or coming in a bit earlier. I will be honest with you if it is just not possible.
6. My work takes time. When a client says she’s in a rush, I tell her she needs to schedule her time better. Keep in mind that trim is not “just a trim.” It requires my expertise, skill, knowledge, and time. Would you say to your dentist, “It’s just a tooth,” or to your doctor, “It’s just a leg?”
When you book online it will tell you the estimated time so you have an idea of what I think it will take. If your hair is short or thin it might take me less time than someone who has a pony tail as thick as a bat. I don't mind being told in the beginning of any time constraints, but I will be honest and let you know it might just mean your shampoo or style time is cut shorter. For the record a trim is actually the same amount of work as a full cut because we still go through all the same steps we just take less. There was no need for the uppity comment though.
7. If you cancel at the very last minute, that’s lost money to me. I can’t fill that appointment with little or no notice.
This one is actually true but last minute emergencies happen, I am not saying it is not frustrating especially if it happens a lot, but life happens and sometimes only an hour before your hair appointment.
8. We see women at their worst. Their hair is wet; they have foils on their hair; they have no makeup on. There’s nothing for them to hide behind. So they tell us everything.
Why is this looking the worst? Look at all the swimsuit magazines with women with wet hair; and makeup is not the only thing that makes a woman beautiful. And yes, we do hear a lot of things from our clients but many times because we feel like or are friends with them as well.
9. Layers are the magic remedy. Some women think that if they keep their hair all one length the way it was in high school, everyone will think they’re still in high school. Guess what? You’re not. As you get older, you need to soften the lines around your face.
Wait I thought they said above they weren't magicians. Don't ever feel like you have to do something, yes layers are great but a nice chin length bob can work well for some people too. Don't let stylists pigeonhole you into anything.
10. Kids’ haircuts aren’t child’s play. Why do you think a child’s haircut should cost less than yours? Kids don’t sit still. Kids kick. It’s an intense experience.
They are right, kids cuts can be intense but I also really think it is about how the stylist approaches it and the child. I know some that won't even do kids. I really just think it's bad business. Some day, in the near future those kids are going to grow up and be teenagers and then adults and those teenagers and adults will still need a hairstylist which I am more than happy to be!
I am always honest up front though and tell them I cannot guarantee that a kids cut will be perfect because of the moving target and most parents understand this. The great thing today is there are salons all around that tailor just to children and some kids do better in those surroundings anyways.
11. Take a picture. Some clients will say, “Cut my hair just like you did last time.” That always baffles me. The average time between appointments is six to eights weeks. I have hundreds of clients. How am I supposed to remember exactly how I did your hair the last time? If you want a carbon copy of a cut and style you loved, take a picture and show me.
This is a great idea, especially if you are going like months between your haircuts. When hair grows it loses the shape of a cut so the road map I usually have on cuts that are done every month to 6 weeks is gone. I can guesstimate the amount your hair has grown and try to follow my pattern but this is still a great idea.
12. Bodies and hair change as hormones change. If your hair is dry, listless or brittle, or if it’s not holding your colour or style the way it used to, see a doctor.
This is true, at different times of your life your hair changes. At about 9ish kids start going through that yucky stinky stage where no matter how many times they wash it just feels gross and has this sweaty smell to it. That's normal. If you have greys growing in that texture is going to be different more than likely from your normal hair. The change of life or pregnancy can really change your hair too. Tell your stylist what products you are using and ask for suggestions on what might help it.
13. Spend a little money on the right products. Your hair wants to be healthy. Just help it a little. Let it do its thing. -
I agree that great products really help the quality and styling abilities of your hair. Now I also recognize not everyone has a L'Oreal Professional or Pureology budget. They are amazing products but I also know other great alternatives and can direct you where to get them. Currently my shop only sells those two lines but I would be more than happy to help you find something that works. I am not about the retail commission and talking you into something you might not even need I am about helping you make your hair the best it can be.
I hope you now have a little insight into my world and my goals for when we work together. I originally was just so turned off by someone posting this, and some stylist collaborating to do it that I felt I needed to play a little Myth Busters . I truly love what I do and I believe that if you don't it might not be the best career for you. We are creating wearable art everyday, and I really put the love of my field into that art and I hope my clients feel and can see that!
Have a great week and a Happy Thanksgiving in case I don't force chat at you before then!
This will be my final post in my Photoshop series and so therefore my final long diatribe. Below you will see a very graphic image. An image no one really wants to see but must. This is me after a few weeks of being too lazy to wax my eyebrows. What I should have done was get up and go immediately do it but in the end it is what inspired me to put the PS series together.
It's a huge blown up picture I know but I did it on purpose so you could study every imperfection and see what I am about to do to it. The picture below is the same exact picture, I didn't pluck, tweeze, wax, apply makeup or anything. All changes between the two were digitally manipulated by me. Once again I am a hack in Photoshop so you can only imagine how good the pro's are doing it on the celebrities.
A quick rundown of what I changed or added here.
1. I removed the leftover mascara chunks
2. Completely cleaned up the eyebrows to the point of what looks really fake to me but I have seen the exact look done before in photos.
3. Filled them in where my brows were sparse.
4. Trimmed my bangs to make them even and not have the uneven crazies.
5. Cleaned up the lines on my forehead and under my eyes.
6. I went so far to remove the crease from the inner corner of my eye that always makes my eyes look even more hooded than they are.
7. Blended out any darker age spots or freckles.
8. Added the obviously fake eyeliner above and then lightly below.
9. Added additional eyelashes on the bottom.
10. Whitened my eyes.
11. Lightened the pink of my waterline.
I am sure there is more I messed with but am forgetting. The sad thing about this is that I am still and you are probably as well looking at this and seeing the flaws that are still left. I could have sat here for a few more hours but the more you go the faker and faker it looks. It is so easy to get carried away as you can see I did in a few places.
The eyeliner is so fake but here is a picture I found on the internet that has had some of the same exact things done with it, and I am sure if I hunted it down on Pinterest many people would be in awe of how perfect it is and striving for it.
Once you see the changes that can be made you become addicted and want all the things fixed on you. Could you imagine if we saw all the originals to the photos we see in magazines and on the internet. What would our society be like if Photoshop and other photo editing software didn't exist?
Would we see the real size of models thighs? Would we realize that most women and some men end up with stretch marks and that is completely normal?
There are celebrities out there that are now standing up saying they do not want to be photoshopped anymore. Jamie Lee Curtis was the first, followed by Gisele and Heidi Klum. Anyone else feel like the last two might still be cheating lol? I have a not so secret crush though on Heidi Klum because she is hilarious and just seems awesome on everything I have seen her on or read about her.
If you have two minutes to spare this video is worth the watch, sad but interesting in a frustrating sort of way.
And here is the question you are all wondering I am sure. In my photos that I post do I photoshop and the answer is yes. Do I feel like a hypocrite? Yes! Then why do I do it? Because sadly in my business if I want to keep up and have my work more widely seen I have to do some clean up. Below here is my before PS and after. I try to keep it as minor as possible. Colors really get washed out in photography and because of that I will re intensify the colors so they are what they actually look like in person. I fixed the eyeliner wing to make it look more steady handed, whitened the eye and I probably spot fixed a few freckles. I would never ever shave down someone's body though or face structure because that is just pushing it too far in my opinion.
My very bottom line on my entire series is this. We always talk about teaching our girls about realness and loving our body but rarely do we personally strive for that for ourselves. We want perfection like we see on the TV and magazines but that perfection is all a sham. Many times it is because they want you to buy their product and by making you feel like that could change you into perfection you will. Do I want you to come see me and let me create art on your hair and with your makeup? Yes of course because it is what I love and do but I promise I will always be honest with you about the outcome. No one is perfect, all we should do is love ourselves for all our messes and realness we have in our life and be ok with ourselves.
Thanks for following along with my huge photo editing series, I hope it was eye opening or at least made you think a little.
I know I said my next post was going to be my 4th in my Photoshop series but getting to do my hair at 5:30am inspired me. I hope this brings at least a little chuckle to your bleary eyed day.
I also apologize in advance because I try to not exclude anyone in my posts but in this case if you don't or never had kids you might feel left out. Or it might make you rethink your future sleep options if you are thinking about it. Here we go, 10 ways that your life has changed when it comes to your "beauty" regime and life.
Just got my hair done, getting ready for a night out, posting on FB so everyone knows the fun that is about to begin.
1. Kidless - You might be rolling in at about 5:30am from your nightly adventure thinking about how you can just reuse this makeup and hair in 2 hours when you have to get up and go to work.
Kids - You've probably been up at least a half an hour praying that you don't hear your name called yet, that maybe you can get a 5 minute shower in before. There hasn't been a stitch of makeup on your face in 3 days and that was just mascara so less chances of raccoon eyes.
2. Kidless - You have a secret identity when you are out having fun and being pretty. You can get a little crazy and blame it on someone else the next day.
Kids - My secret identity is now Jess. Every time I am out of the house I am mom or ma'am, I don't even remember my own dang name sometimes since I find myself talking in the third person. "Mommy says if you don't stop hitting your brother and eat your damn peas you are going to bed right now!"
3. Kidless - You love when you "fall back" for daylight savings time. It means you get an hour extra to dance that night away because you will also get an extra hour of sleep to match. It all evens out!
Kids - You LOATHE daylights savings time. Your kid doesn't realize they get an hour extra in fact it is the opposite to them because they cannot read clocks! Not only do you ever get an extra hour of sleep, the rest of your day is all messed up because now naps are earlier which then throws off the playdates I already despise. Bed time is also thrown off making your day a complete whirlwind that leads to an extra much deserved glass of wine at the end of the day.
4. Kidless - You talked to your friends online to talk about meet up times and what you are wearing that night.
Kids - All your best friends are online, you talk to them every day. You have chat groups where you can tell them exactly how you feel about everyone's damn dirty socks and how you had to hide in the bathroom to eat your much coveted candy bar. Your nightly girl times consists of a few glasses of wine and online facebook chat.
5. Kidless - You text your friends to see where the heck they are, you are standing outside in heels and it is cold! You cannot wait in line to get into the club by yourself because that is embarrassing.
Kids - On a rare night you get out you walk into the bar and find your one friend (the others couldn't get out..bath time and DST messing them up) sitting at a table with her beer half gone. Who cares what people think, you only have so much time and you got to get that drink started!
6. Kidless - You use the bathroom with the door open because who cares if someone comes in. No one is going to touch your makeup, your blow dryer isn't going to wake anyone up, and you need to hear the prefunk music coming from the living room.
Kids - You use the bathroom with the door open because littles traipsing in and out is better than not knowing what they could be doing in the 2.5 seconds it now takes you to pee. On the rare occasion when you lock the door you just pray that you won't come out to children climbing the stairs banister or in your makeup room using your 20 dollar eyeliner as a crayon to write all over every surface in there.
7. Kidless - Your prefunk activities start at 9pm after your girlfriends come over and you make sure your makeup and hair are perfect and that your outfits are of the same quality i.e. it's a jean night vs a skirt night.
Kids - Your prefunk is the bottle of wine you have been stealing sips out of since 5pm, putting your jammies on at 7, breaking out the vodka at 8:35 after you finally get the kids in bed and by 10 you are rubbing your eyes thinking about bed. You know some little munchkin is going to need a drink of water at 5:30am and then need to take up your side of the bed except for the 6 inches of space he left you on the edge.
8. Kidless - Full face of makeup consists of eyeshadow primer, concealer, foundation, contouring, blush, highlighter, eyeshadow, setting powder, eyeliner, mascara, and lipstick. All finished with a setting spray to keep that stuff in place!
Kids - Eyeshadow primer, eyeshadow applied using your finger, mascara, eyeliner, some blush for countouring, and some lip balm or maybe even some gloss! You are only going out for 3-4 hours anyways and it just means you can go home and not have to wash your face since you didn't put anything all over your pores. For some I know this is even way beyond the amount of products you use but I am girly when it comes to makeup!
9. Kidless - Sleeping in for your beauty rest has you rolling out of bed at 10-12 upon which you go out for a hang over brunch at a little cafe where there only being a few stools left is totally fine.
Kids - You haven't really slept in for 2 years and the off occasion you get to it's means you get up at 7:30am instead of 6:30am. If you ever go out for breakfast it is in a booth way in the back that the waiter happily assigns you, it seats 6 where you jam your kids as far in the middle so they cannot escape and you spend 3/4th of your time saying don't play with your damn eggs, get your feet off the table and stop staring at the people next to us!
10. Kidless - Who blogs? You instagram and Facebook the entire night out to show off your night of wild fun. People hate all your selfies but secretly wish they were out there too.
Kids - There is no way you are putting your 9pm face and jammies on social media, you blog at 5:30am while it is quiet and in said blog you talk about food, saving money and the knitting project you started but that no one will receive because it will be secretly stashed in the box of 15 others you started.
Coloring and cutting my own hair at 10pm, drinking a glass of wine, in my jammies while my husband posts "funny" pictures of me in awe of my multitasking and skill.
Obviously every one is different and maybe you haven't had to change as much. I just notice how different things have become lately and was hoping maybe just one other mom out there felt my new parent culture shock. Have a great Sunday everyone and I promise my next blog will be the next in my Photoshop series! Enjoy your day!
I'll start out by telling you some fakes are really good and hard to spot but there are a few tricks that can help you smell out a Photoshop job. Here we go...
Yea so these are my horrible quick arrows. If my husband is reading this he is thinking, "you know there is a way better and easier way to do that." He would never say that though. I do the hair in the family and he is the graphic master.
So the top and bottom arrows are to show you the easiest tell to see. If you notice her outside tendrils of her hair are still her natural color. I can tell you that even if these pieces were somehow missed when applying the lavender color it would not have also been missed in the prelightening stage. It can be hard in Photoshop to catch all those little hairs like that and they tend to be missed
The middle arrow is to show you if you look pretty close that it almost looks brushed on. Well because it probably was or selected with some PS tool. In other words it is too perfect. Also although the scalp does get stained if you apply it there, not like this.
Bottom line is, if it looks too perfect it probably is. Too perfect = faked many times.
Remember this picture and how beautiful the color is?
Oh did you want it in purple and blue? Phew this took me hours to take the color out and then recolor it in these chosen colors. Ok, it took me 5 minutes in PS to change it. If I was doing this for more than an example (don't look Ryan!) I would have gone and made sure all the other color around it weren't changed. You know, so she didn't have a green arm. I did this to show how sadly easy a photo can be manipulated. These two photos shows the perimeter glow I talk about further down.
I just love P!nk and her ability to change up her hair color. Ok, once again I quickly Photoshopped it to give her a few pink highlights. Another 5 minute hack job but I think you get the point. In real life getting bright streaks like this and having it not bleed into the rest of that blonde after you wash it the first time is extremely hard and almost inevitable
The tell on this image is the glow around the head. Many times in Photoshop you select a certain area to change the something in it. If you look at the right side of her head by the mirror you can really see it. The bottom has the pink glow as well.
Also the hair accessory has a pink tinge to it as well which it did not in the original picture.
Next up is the makeup part of this Photoshop series. Nope, you don't have the worst skin in the world up close, you just might not be editing the heck out of your images!
That's all for today folks! Feel free to send me images by email or post on my facebook if you have any questions about the validity of it. If I can't figure it out I know my trusty graphic designer extraordinaire husband can. I hope you enjoyed this! I now have to go see what the 2 year old littles are destroying as that is a supernatural sort of silence. Have a great evening!
Part 2 of my Photoshop diatribe. Today I will show you some pictures of real punk color and what you can expect. One thing you might notice that is different between the two is the amount of light that reflects from them. In my previous post you will notice that the colors are very multidimensional with what appears to be highlights and lowlights. What you are really seeing is the highlights and lowlights of their real hair color and when it was photoshopped the one color they laid over the top of the image shows the underneath color. It can be sort of confusing and I apologize so I will move on.
The real colors you will see are a more flat look and do not refract as much light. To get hair this vibrant, have the staying power you desire and the best all over look you have to prelighten it, also known as bleaching the hair first. Bleach is an awesome thing but it can be pretty touchy too. You can easily give yourself a chemical hair cut if you don't know what you are doing. Yes. It will literally melt or break off because of it being over processed.
So here we go, on with what you really want to see...the bright pretty colors!
"Hey this is multidimensional and you said they don't look like that!" They would have used 3-4 different colors to achieve this and boy did they because this is awesome! Now there is always a chance I am missing the clues and this could be photoshopped because some people are that good but this looks pretty real to this girl.
P.S. This is not my work, I found it on Pinterest.
This is what real lavender hair looks like. If you notice in some places it almost borders on grey but on other places a lilac color. The reason for the variances is that punk colors take differently in the hair depending on the porosity of it. If you also notice she has roots because to get this light of a color with the saturation she has it needs to be prelightened. So this type of color is almost always a two step process.
Beautiful hot pink! How come it is so vibrant!? Because she probably just did it and to stay that way she probably didn't wash it as often as some people shampoo. The great thing about all over punk color is that since your hair has been through a bit more to get it there it is usually drier and therefore can go longer without shampooing it.
P.P.S I also found this one on Pinterest but if you click on the picture it will take you to the site. Not my work but it is pretty great!
You might be wondering well how the hell do I know when I am being duped or not!? Stay tuned until my next post and I will show you some of the tell tale signs I look for when playing my favorite game show. "Photoshopped or Not!". I also enjoy "Wig or Not" but that is for another post.
Have a great evening!
For all you Star Wars fans I apologize for false marketing. The Dark Side I am referring to is Photoshop. You might have heard me rant a few times about Adobes program and the thing is I have a love hate relationship with it. You can do some amazing things and you can also make people feel less about who they are.
For those that do not know what Photoshop is, it's a photo editing software program that can literally make people disappear, colors can be completely altered and thighs taken from a size 16 to a 10. It is an amazing program because you can bring back the color that many times is lost when pictures are taken. For example, I take a picture of someone wearing flaming red lipstick and when I go to look at the picture it now looks pink. It is because light plays tricks and lots of other reasons I am not going to google. With PS (abbreviation used from here on out) you can turn it back to that hot red it is in real life. Awesome right!? Right, but all things can be used for evil as well.
I love PS because it can add colors back in, crop pictures, sharpen my horrible photography skills and a list of other cool tricks. I despise PS because it has been used to alter our society in how we view what is normal, what is beautiful and what is real. Many times I am shown pictures of punk hair colors that people want that are beautiful. 9 times out of 10 when I study the picture I find that it has been photoshopped to look like that.. Here are a few examples that I've seen on Pinterest that are pretty popular. The examples below are not just modified slightly but the color completely altered.
Everyone loves this mermaidy ombre, I admit it is beautiful! But is this photoshopped!?
Why yes...yes my friends it is. Sad huh?
But she has matching makeup...this has to be real!
Side view, same girl, no hair color and no matching eyeshadow.
I don't even have a witty comment for this one
But here is the truth people, it's just not real.
So this is just the tip of the iceberg and where my distaste for PS uses start. It is awesome that we can make art and turn hair into beautiful colors like these above. The issue I have is that most people won't know this isn't real and that it had to be digitally manipulated to look this even, this multidimensional. In other words I have to tell them their baby is ugly and that is not my favorite part of the job.
Can you get beautiful punk colors? Absolutely and I have seen many and be prepared I am going to show you some of those as well. But you will have to wait until tomorrow!
In hopes to open a few eyes out there I am going to be doing more posts using different photoshopped mediums as well.
Have a good day and I hope you remembered to Fall back!
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I find so many things I love out on The Internet and I want a place to share it. Trends, tips, and hopefully some fun stuff too!